Can You Disagree Without Losing the Relationship?
Episode notes
We've lost the ability to disagree without losing the person. It is not just toilet paper and pecan pie. It is identity, politics, church, and marriage.
A pastor and a licensed counselor talk about the lost art of disagreement. When it is a preference, you can let it go. When it is Scripture, you stand. Either way, you do not have to be a jerk.
In this episode
- Why disagreement feels like a personal attack
- Disagreement is not the same as disrespect
- Identity in Christ vs identity in a party, a team, or a label
- James 1:19. Swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath
- Did Jesus disagree? Grace and truth. Woes to the Pharisees. Kindness to the woman who did not know
- Check your motive. Listen to understand. Do not attack character
- Biblical conviction vs personal preference vs opinion
- How a husband and wife disagree without cracking the foundation
- Questions to ask before you wage the battle
If you have won the argument and lost the person, this one is for you.
Pastor Daniel Cox & Marie Cox · Cultural Connections
https://www.culturalconnectionspodcast.com
Calvary Baptist Church, Englewood, Florida · https://calbaptist.net
Scripture
James 1:19 · John 1:14 · Ephesians 4:15 · Matthew 23 · John 8 · Romans 3:4 · Philippians 2:3 · Luke 17:1
Chapters
- 0:00 Pecan pie
- 0:44 Intro
- 1:05 We are going to talk about disagreement
- 1:38 The lost art of disagreement
- 3:26 When it became personal
- 5:05 Identity, politics, and labels
- 6:05 Disagreement vs disrespect
- 6:21 Swift to hear, slow to speak
- 9:14 High standard, deep compassion
- 12:06 Did Jesus disagree?
- 14:29 Speak the truth in love
- 15:35 Grace to those who do not know
- 17:41 You are allowed to disagree
- 18:02 Motive, listening, and character
- 24:01 When to stand your ground
- 24:50 Conviction, standard, preference
- 26:05 Philippians 2:3
- 26:54 Disagreement in marriage
- 28:39 Can we disagree and look like Christ?
- 31:11 Questions to ask yourself
- 33:38 Close
If this helped, send it to someone you still love and still disagree with. Not as a weapon. As an invitation to stay in the room.